Ever since the semester ended, I've been adjusting to a lot of new changes. I really don't know how I want to sum up the past few months, but I think the best way to tackle the task is by creating a list and then expanding a little on each point. (This is what happens when I have to make lists for both work and school; it starts pouring into my personal life, too! Haha.)
Shawn and Kathleen graduated. I'm not a fan of going to big graduation ceremonies, but as it turns out, I had to go to two within the same month. Shawn had to deal with my bad mood that day (I feel like I kind of ruined part of the experience for him... Bah!), but it ended up going really well. He's completely finished with college and education for the rest of his life. I'm so proud of him, and I couldn't be more jealous. ^///^
Since Shawn graduated, he's been working full time for Kohl's Corporate. Whenever any of my family members, or one of our friends, asks how he likes his job, he always tells them that he doesn't really like what he does there. Even though he says that, I know he really likes it. He's been picking up a ton of responsibilities: going to meetings, being "on call" for days at a time, attending events held by his team, etc. Whether Shawn wants to admit it or not, he likes being needed for something. He really should feel that way, too, especially after all the work he's put into the past few years in school.
Kathleen graduated high school and has been getting ready for college. She's going to the same university that Beth and I are at, which I'm totally psyched about. <3 As happy as I am for her, I have to be honest about the whole situation-- it's been a tough few weeks for her and the rest of our family. We've all been going through some major adjustments and there have been a lot of hurt feelings. I'm not sure where I stand on all of the issues anymore, but I do know that I'm trying to focus on making Kathleen as comfortable as possible with her new living situation with Beth. It's interesting how so many changes in just Kathleen's life have impacted the entire family. Something like this has never really happened in this way before.
My internship is going well.
I'm moving in with Shawn in a few weeks. Even though Shawn and I have lived in our current apartment together, with Beth, we finally found a place for just the two of us. We looked around for a few weeks, did some research, and then found the perfect place for us to live for the next year. I started getting a little stressed out when we were looking, because I hated the fact that I felt "homeless" but everything worked out in the end. The biggest challenge for us now is buying all of our furniture and still having enough money for rent. Like Shawn keeps telling me, we "have to take it slow." I guess I'm just excited about the idea of having an entirely new place to live with all new furniture. It's like I'm putting together a new family or something! ^__^ Slow steps are good.
I had to tell Dad that Shawn and I were moving in together. I had to do it. I mean, after all the years that Dad and I haven't been able to communicate, I had to tell him that Shawn and I were taking this step in our lives. Honestly, I wasn't worried about talking to Dad, but everyone else started to freak out about it. Mom even told me, at one point, that she didn't want to be in the house when I was talking to him. *sigh* Every other person I talked to gasped and made me promise to tell him/her how it went.
The thing is, everyone knows how difficult my relationship with Dad has been throughout my life. His Filipino culture is extremely different from my own, and hearing that two people are moving in together before marriage can tear people apart. There are little secrets to situations like this though: you have to know people. You have to know how they function, how they feel about certain issues, how they react to specific situations, how their thought processes break down information. I did my research and I made a plan.
Last weekend, I went home to talk with Dad. I walked up to him and asked him if we could talk alone. Within the next two hours, we stood there in my parents' bedroom talking about everything. I told him about Shawn and me, and from there we started talking about family and beliefs. Huge breakthroughs were made, and I told him that I wanted to fix everything that had gone so wrong in the past. I know that Dad and I don't have what Mom and I share, but I'm only 23 years old. I can be an adult here and try to fix something like a relationship.
A few times during our talk, Dad broke down. A while back, Mom told me that no one but her had ever seen him cry, and even then, it had happened only twice during their marriage. When he started crying, he told me he felt he was a bad father. And then he kept repeating the same story about how he had left to go on a vacation at a time when things in our family were finally good-- and then how guilty he felt about leaving for those few weeks. Even though I had little recollection about this happening (since I was so little), I felt everything he felt. I know how one guilty memory can tear me to shreds so I did the only thing I could do at the time. I listened.
Not everything between Dad and me is resolved now, but at least we have some of the issues out in the open. I told him that we need to talk more, instead of letting Mom be the messenger between us, and he agreed.
It's been an interesting few weeks. As always, I've been dealing with a lot of the stress by buying myself presents. *guilty look* I know I should be saving money for my new apartment, but having new dolls and accessories makes me feel so much better. They take my mind off of the stress. I'm trying not to repeat what happened last summer! So far, I've only had to take my stress medication for one week and I was able to stop after that. It's a good sign. ^__^
In a way, I feel like I've kind of graduated, too. Usually summer is a slow time for me, but so far, it's proven to be just as hectic as the school year!
I decided to post a few more images from yesterday. Hope you like 'em.
I bought a new Canon 40D, so today was photo day. We hit up The Little Theatre Rose Garden and Pullen Park. Check out my shots, and then head over and check out Brandy. She also got a new camera.
Scenes from the SAKK office: Chris prepping for his talk, the Taco party thereafter, Nob's talk to the ProNet community, Chris's family visit, and lots from Tesla's 5 minute visit.
I typed a nice, long post on Vox about my trip to Chapel Hill. Before I posted it, though, Explorer crashed. So, now you get a few less words.
I have visited Chapel Hill several times since attending UNC in the early 90s, but those trips were usually quick trips to grab some food, or to visit a friend. Yesterday was the first time in years I actually spent an extended amount of time there and I noticed a lot of changes. There were new apartment buildings, hotels, new campus buildings and new monuments on campus.
One new change that made me a little sad was the closing of The Rathskellar, a restaurant that has been a fixture of downtown for almost 60 years. Brandy and I walked down Amber Alley (see photo below) with intentions of eating at "The Rat," but were met with a locked door and the absence of signage. The Rat wasn't anything spectacular. The food was good, but not incredible. But the atmosphere was really cool (one room looked like a cave, another looked like a train), and there was a lot of history in that place. Apparently, the deteriorating condition of the building and a failure to pay taxes for several months forced the owner's hand in closing. The owner, as wel as some people in the city, want the location to reopen so maybe it will happen. But, for now, The Rat is gone.
We also went to Morehead Planetarium. The last time I was there, I think I was probably in 5th grade. The planetarium really is more of a kid attraction, designed to educate children about outer space. But, we decided to catch a show anyway. We watched "Destination: Space" in the "dome room." The dome room is really cool. In the center of the room is a huge "Zeiss" robotic projector. That projector, along with abourt 150 other smaller in the room, is used to display the video content on the domed roof of the dome room, hence the name.
No trip to Chapel Hill is complete without visiting The Dean E. Smith Student Activities Center, or "The Dean Dome." This is where the Tar Heels play. It is one of the top complexes in the country.
I took several other photos. Perhaps I will post more later... or perhaps not. =)
WOWZA!
GIZMODO has an exclusive video of Lego's secret vault. It contains nearly every lego set ever made. Mint in box madness!!!http://gizmodo.com/5018990/lego-secret-vault-contains-all-sets-i...
Also checkout the jmenomeno's flickrstream of his articulated, and motorized LEGO WALL-E:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/brickjournal/sets/72157605651816828/
I just want to remind you all to go see Wall-E this weekend. If you can of course!
It's a beautiful movie that will warm your heart and make you feel like everything is right with the world once more.
Or at least watch a good movie and feel that your money was well spent.
Yay for cute robots. @^_^@
